Every divorce is different. But all divorces have the potential to bring significant change to family dynamics. Especially if you have children, how you adjust to life after divorce can greatly impact short- and long-term personal matters. You may find that your relationship with your child is not what it used to be, or that you do not find as much joy in your hobbies and passions.
Many interpersonal and underlying complications can arise following the end of a marriage. The stress of divorce may even lead to self-loathing and, according to the American Psychological Association (APA), those who put in the effort to be kinder to themselves have a better chance of managing everyday difficulties that result from divorce.
Another measure you can take, even if it seems like the last thing you want to do, is to try to cooperate and communicate with your ex-spouse. You can prepare for such cooperation by creating a list of talking points to use as a guide when you speak with them; this can make for an easier means of processing what needs to be done.
What about the kids?
It may surprise you how well children adjust to change. That does not mean, however, that they are immune to harm during and after your divorce process. Making intentional measures to be clear and caring with them can make a big difference, starting from the moment you share the news of the divorce with them. APA research also suggests kids do well when they are in close contact with each parent. What’s more, it may help to consider every instance in which you interact with your ex-spouse to be an opportunity to demonstrate peace and compassion.
You may also benefit from developing a good support base of family and friends to whom you can turn when you need help. To learn more about moving forward post-divorce, consider talking to a family psychologist or otherwise qualified expert. For questions regarding divorce, consult an experienced attorney.