Custody exchange days can be challenging, especially in the beginning when you, your spouse and the kid(s) are still getting the hang of the new life. However, you can handle custody exchanges effectively with a few tips.
Here are four of them:
1. Let your kids know the days
It can be easier if your children are aware of the exchange days. You can have a calendar on the fridge with stickers marking the days they will be with you and when they need to get things ready to go to the other parent, especially if your kids are younger.
2. Have a consistent routine
Consistency on exchange days can save you from potential misunderstandings. If your exchange days are Wednesdays and Saturdays, stick to them unless something comes up, which should be communicated in advance. It can also be beneficial to choose a regular time for exchange.
Another aspect to pick is location. Will you drop the kids in each other’s homes? Or will you have a meeting place?
If you are not yet comfortable going to your ex-spouse’s home, the latter option may be practical. However, ensure you pick a location that allows a calm exchange.
3. Keep it positive
When you meet with your co-parent during the exchange, you should keep it positive. Your kid can feel the energy and read the body language. Thus, talk to your co-parent respectfully.
4. Keep what they need in both homes
Packing everything, from toiletries to books, during exchange days can be stressful for you and your kids. Besides, unpacking and packing every few days can make them feel like a visitor in both homes. It can be beneficial if they have what they need in both houses.
Exchange days can be stressful if you are not well-prepared. Get as much information as possible to have smooth transitions.
