Years from now, you may look back at some of the things you did and said during your divorce and realize you were a bit of an emotional wreck. It is normal. The break up of a marriage is stressful for anyone, especially if you end up in litigation.
Here are some things to remember to help you maintain some balance in your life during your divorce process:
- You are not the first person to go through this: You have not ruined everything, and you are not destined to live alone for the rest of your life. Around a third of marriages end in divorce, and most people go on to lead healthy lives.
- You are not alone: Even if you have to dig deep to remember who they are, you do have friends and family who will be there for you when you need them. It may require an effort to reach out if you have lost contact, but real friends will not mind.
- You are not a machine: Do not think you can carry on as usual. The stress of divorce may affect your work, or you may need to step down from the school committee. Listen to your body and take the rest you need.
- You are not a mean or selfish person for standing up for your rights: It can be easy to cede too much in your divorce, be it assets or parenting time because you do not want to come across as mean. An attorney can help you understand your legal rights and advise you what the law would consider reasonable.
There is one final way you can reduce the emotional impact of your divorce: choose an uncontested divorce: While not possible in all cases, these can significantly reduce the stress and uncertainty associated with contested divorces. An attorney with experience in both can talk you through the benefits.